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Eight Messages Students Want to Hear (and Feel) From Us

Climate and Culture, Relationships and Connections

Eight Messages Students Want to Hear (and Feel) From Us

As human beings, we often internalize how we are treated, and our students are no exception. While the intensity with which students seek evidence and reassurance of our relationship with them may vary, all students want to know that they matter to us, that we are attentive to their needs, and that we want them to succeed. Even students who may seem to resist our influence and reject our guidance want to be connected and included. These students may be carrying negative past experiences that make it more difficult to make connections and gain trust with adults in their life. It is crucial to not give up on making these connections and continue attempting to forge a relationship with these students, even when it doesn’t seem possible.

It is also true that much of what we communicate to students about our feelings toward and perceptions of them are not scripted and often are not even consciously demonstrated. Yet, students watch, feel, analyze, and interpret our words and actions to discern where they can find reassurance, protection, and connectedness. Let’s examine eight ways that we communicate to students what they mean to us, what we think about them, and what our actions and intentions say to them:

  • Noticing. A greeting at the school or classroom door, an authentic and personal smile, or fist bump can send an unmistakable message that students are noticed and they count. These seemingly small gestures can have an outsized impact on how students feel about us and about themselves.
  • Respect. Regularly calling students by name, listening to what they have to say, sharing their victories and empathizing with their struggles tell students that they are worthy and have our respect. When students feel respected, they are more likely to show respect in return. 
  • Safety. When we establish and consistently enforce reasonable rules, refuse to tolerate hurtful teasing and harassment, and otherwise attend to students’ physical and emotional safety, we free students to be themselves. We make it safe to participate and take learning risks. When we create an environment that students feel is safe, we set the stage for everything else we want to accomplish.
  • Caring. While noticing is important, caring goes the next step to inquire, listen, and act.  A question or comment when students may not be feeling well or are having a bad day, offering to do something to help, and even stepping up to advocate for a student who needs adult support can create a significant, lifelong impression on a student who feels lost and helpless.
  • Belonging. When we build a classroom community, encourage respect and inclusion, and step in when students are shunned and ignored. It is important to assure students that they are welcomed and belong. Students who may lack social skills, come from backgrounds from other students, and otherwise may struggle to fit in can be especially aware to whether they have a place and feel connected to the class. These students often appreciate our attention and actions more than we know.
  • Confidence. “I know you can do it”, “I have seen you find your way through difficult challenges before”, and “I believe in you” are all powerful statements when students hear them from us. Feeling our confidence can make the difference between giving up and persisting in the face of difficult learning or life challenge for students. Students do not always believe in themselves. Our confidence may be exactly what they need to feel to find their way through.
  • Positive presumptions. Assuming that students are well-intended, trying to do the right thing, or simply made a poor choice when they made a mistake or behave inappropriately can send a powerful message about what we think of them and the behavior we expect from them. Giving students “the benefit of the doubt” reassures students that we view them as more likely to act positively than engage in mischief. Assuming that students are trying to meet our expectations encourages positive behavior. Assuming that students are purposely misbehaving risks encouraging them to validate our negative assumptions.
  • Forgiveness. When we give students a fresh start after a bad day and avoid rehashing yesterday’s conflict or reminding students of past disappointments, we signal to students that we are focused on what today will bring. They do not have to fear retribution or uncomfortable reminders from the past. We free students to face forward and do their best without being hampered by guilt and regret.

Taken together, these eight connecting and confidence building behaviors can have a powerful impact on how our students feel and behave. However, this is not necessarily an all-inclusive list. What behaviors would you add to reassure and connect with students?

Five Mindsets to Reaffirm for a Successful School Year

Student Learning, Thinking Frames

Five Mindsets to Reaffirm for a Successful School Year

Hopefully, the summer has offered opportunities to disconnect from the press and stress of the past year and provided time to engage in other activities and endeavors. Mental and physical breaks are important to our health and feeling of well-being. They can also help us to refresh and re-energize.

However, the beginning of another school year will soon be upon us. These final weeks of summer can be a good time to begin to mentally re-engage. It can also be a time to revisit and maybe shift some important mindsets that can help us to have a successful start and sustain us throughout the year. Here are five perspectives that can help us to balance our thinking and inform our work as we prepare for what lies ahead.  

Less expectations for control and more prioritizing connection.

Classroom management is a key element in maintaining order and a focus on learning. We need to establish routines and clear behavior expectations. However, effective and sustainable classroom management requires more than setting rules and controlling behavior. The best classroom management grows out of mutual respect and strong, positive relationships with our students. Our success in the opening weeks of school and beyond will rest as much on the connections we make with students as they will on the rules we ask them to follow.

Less focus on covering content and more attention to nurturing learning.

For most of us, preparation to become a teacher focused heavily on how to organize and present content. Priority was often placed on coverage of what was contained in the formal curriculum. While these elements remain important, more crucial is what students understand, the purpose learning can serve, the ways in which they can use it, and the value they assign to it. A perfectly presented lesson carries little value if students fail to absorb, integrate, and retain what is presented to them. Now is a good time to remind ourselves that our work is nurturing learning, not just presenting content. We might think of our work as designing learning experiences, not planning lessons. Only when students are active participants in the teaching and learning process can we expect deep and lasting learning to result.

Less preoccupation with deficits and more valuing of assets.

It can be tempting to fall into the habit of focusing on what students do not know, what they cannot do, and the many things they do wrong. Students are not perfect, but every student has unique experiences, multiple strengths, and their own perceptions, perspectives, and strategies for managing life. The more we can identify, focus on, and leverage the valuable assets students possess the more we can build their confidence, gain their trust, and nurture their engagement. Of course, some students may not be convinced of their assets, and we may need patience and persistence to help them shift their thinking and begin to appreciate their assets.

Less pouring information in and more drawing insights out.

Many traditional teaching practices are based on the John Locke theory that students come as empty vessels and need to be filled with the information and knowledge that teachers present. Yet, we know that students come with many experiences, preferences, prior knowledge, and a desire to drive, or at least influence, what they learn. We also know that students learn better when they see connections to things they already know or have learned. The more we can draw out the ideas students have, help them make connections with what they already know, develop insights about what they are learning, and provide them with opportunities and options to influence and use what they learn, the more engagement, commitment, and learning retention we will see. 

Equal priority on products and process.  

During the school year, it is important to not only prioritize student success with grades, test scores, and other outcome measures, but also to equally value the learning process to obtain success along the way. While final products are important, they carry little value if the considerations, decisions, and processes necessary to generate them are ignored or lost. Increasingly, artificial intelligence can generate a product without students understanding context, being aware of sequences, or gaining crucial knowledge. Grasping key principles, managing essential information, developing core knowledge, and other process elements can be equally as important as generating a grade, obtaining a test score, or completing a project. The more we can help students to meaningfully engage in and value the processes that contribute to or generate important outcomes, the better prepared they will be for the world after graduation.

Undoubtedly, the coming year will be filled with its share of challenges and opportunities, delights and disappointments, successes and setbacks. Consider the balance of these five mindsets as you navigate what lies ahead. Also, feel free to add other mindsets that you have found helpful to guide your thinking and inform your actions. 

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