This is a time of year when we can feel like responsibilities are piling up and we may not be making the progress we envisioned. We might be at our full “bandwidth” and feel as though we are unable to manage what we face, let alone take on anything more. We may even be feeling as though what we face is spinning out of control.
As much as curling up in bed and pulling the covers over our head may seem attractive, the choice to avoid our situation will not help it. We need strategies to deal with what we face and restore a sense of control.
The good news is that even in these times there are steps we can take to gain a better perspective, create a plan, and move forward with greater confidence and clarity. Here are five strategies to get started:
- Sort. Often, the feeling of being overwhelmed is the result of things piling up without us having a clear sense of what do or where to start. If this is what we face, we can ask ourselves several questions to create categories to help us decide where to begin: What should—and can—I do right now? What can wait? What can be dropped without making a significant difference? What can be put off, put down, or pushed back?
- Prioritize. We might ask ourselves questions to determine what matters most. What is urgent and important versus what is creating pressure but may not be crucial? What would not carry consequences if delayed or ignored? Is there something we have elevated to feel important but really is not something that will make a marked difference if left unattended? Are there promises or commitments that we made that can be delayed or undone?
- Schedule. Deciding what to do and when to do it can give us a sense of control, build our confidence, and help us to see a path forward. What can I do right now and take off my list? What can wait for a few days or until next week? What tasks might be combined and addressed together? Completing a few small tasks and shifting items on our list can create a feeling of progress and lessen the pressure and stress we are experiencing.
- Connect. Now is the time to engage our network. In fact, these are some of the times for which we build and maintain connections. We might reach out and have a conversation, maybe meet for a cup of coffee, or engage in a favorite activity with a supportive friend or family member. This can also be a good time to connect with someone we have not talked to or spent time with recently. The interaction can remind us of what is most important in our lives and give a perspective on what we face.
- Decompress. Sometimes what we most need is some space and time to step back and disconnect. We might listen to our favorite music, go for a walk, engage in a hobby, or just chill. The key is to break the pattern we are experiencing and do something that feels calming and comfortable.
What we experience as overwhelming may be very real or a result of the way we are feeling—or, likely, a combination of both. Regardless, we need to do what we can to regain our balance and move forward. Often, just taking time to sort, prioritize, and schedule what is on our plate can help. However, we also need to take care of ourselves whether we do so by connecting with others or by spending time alone to decompress, renew our energy, and shift our perspective. Ultimately, it would do us good to remember that feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean we are powerless.
